We can guide our children but we cannot control them. Especially if they want their way and end up a mess! All of us want the very best for our family but we won't know what is best. It is total surrender, laying our trust to God and commit to HIM and we have to fix our eyes on Jesus. We have to consider HIM. Compare your adjustment to HIS adjustment. The drive to live ... is to live 'intimacy' with HIM. Focusing on Christ will help increased our righteousness. Grace will change our heart. There is a goodness in his Justice.

In Proverbs 3 Guidance for the Young, there is all the DO NOT forget my law, followed by so many Do Not in the passage ... but v 5 Trust in the LORD with all your heart, And lean not on your own understanding; That is HIS promise and HE will reveal to you if you trust HIM in all your ways. Continue to wait for HIM!

I know not why God's wondrous grace
To me He hath made known;
Nor why, unworthy, Christ in love
Redeemed me for His own.